If you’d like a helping hand in pulling off your dream Paris Proposal, then you’re in the right place. Asking the person you love to marry you is a big life decision … and you’ll want things to be absolutely perfect.
Yet, with so many little details to keep track of, planning your Paris proposal can quickly become a little overwhelming. But relax—our experienced and caring Paris photographers have seen it all, and importantly, are here to help … from initial consultation over concept creation and planing to documenting the actual Paris proposal masterfully.
We’ll consider every last detail so things flow naturally, feel authentic, and are blissfully stress-free.
All you need to worry about is where you’ll take her for dinner after she says “Yes!”
But let’s level with you first: you see, most women have been conditioned for this moment from the time they were still girls. And whether they admit it or not, women simply still appreciate effort, chivalry, and the metaphorical prince on a white stallion. Pretty Woman anyone?
Essential Paris proposal tips for the gentleman
You’re already ahead of the game since you smartly decided to propose to your future spouse in Paris—the most romantic city known to mankind.
Plus, you’ve demonstrated how much this life-event truly means to you by hiring a Paris photographer to capture it for you to remember forever.
Yet, it takes a little more than just getting down on one knee to pull off the perfect Paris proposal. And that’s why we created a resource you can always turn to as you prepare a fairy-tale proposal she’ll fall in love with for the rest of her life.
Paris proposal advice—the fundamentals
- if you’re still on the engagement ring hunt, then here’s a simple How to buy a diamond ring resource to help you make an informed decision
- guys [and girls :-]—suck it up! Don’t be that person in a group of friends who has to say “I didn’t get down on one knee”
- whether your Paris proposal is private (i.e. intimate, discrete, quiet setting) or public, make sure it’s personal, sincere, and the real you
- rehearse and practice what you’ll say to her even before you arrive in Paris
- get her dad’s blessing first
- tell as few people as necessary since somebody is bound to spill the beans
- carefully plan what you’ll do after she says “Yes,” including:
- whom you share the news with first (she’ll be so excited, and all her friends and family will be dying to hear how you asked … and, of course, text them a photo of the ring)
- fully charge your cell phone, and consider having some sort of global data plan in place to handle dozens of texts and calls without breaking the bank
- HowHeAsked.com is one of the quickest ways to share the news with everyone you know
- where you’ll take her to dinner afterwards; you cannot go wrong with Costes, Monsieur Bleu, or the Cristal Room by Baccarat
- treats you may have in store for her when you return to the hotel
- discretely pack the ring so only you can find it, but also make sure it doesn’t get lost during travel
- it’s always a smart idea to insure her engagement ring—ideally with worldwide coverage to protect against loss, theft, damage, and other disappearance
- if she already has kids—perhaps from a previous relationship—consider involving them since they mean the world to her, and she’ll appreciate your forethought (consider including her children in-person, via live video stream, a pre-recorded message, or in any other way you see fit
- deliver your lines to her before you get down on one knee (otherwise, she’ll be too excited to register and remember your words)
- position yourself perfectly parallel in between your photographer and the selected backdrop (e.g. the Eiffel Tower)
- look her straight in the eyes, and make her feel like the most desirable woman in the world as you drop to one knee and ask her to become your wife
- for perfect visual results, do not drop on your knee too close for comfort; instead, take 2 steps back before you descend on your knee
- give your suit a tuck and remove your wallet and phone from your pants as to avoid it distracting in the photos
- do not rush anything and hold your position a little for best photo results
- after you put the ring on her finger, resist the urge to turn to your photographer; rather hold her tightly, comfort her, and turn towards the Eiffel Tower together to symbolize “looking into a common future”
In order to save you time and ensure everything is perfect, we outlined a simple 3-step process on how to prepare for a dream proposal that’s fun, flows naturally, crescendos with a surprise-element, and of course results in Paris proposal photos you’ll be proud of.
Step 1: book your Paris proposal photographer
Sounds simple, right?
Well, surprise proposals are not created equal … and neither are Paris photographers.
Keep in mind that you’ve already spent abundant time and resources on bringing the woman you want to marry to Paris. So you might as well now invest into having your Paris proposal captured professionally by an experienced artist who truly cares.
There are no do-overs when it comes to documenting a once-in-a-lifetime moment.
Questions to ask your Paris photographer?
- check the availability of your Paris photographer
- ask the artist you’re considering about her experience, passion, and approach to discretely documenting (surprise) Paris proposals
- ask your photographer to send you sample photos she’s taken of surprise proposals; also ask her which proposal locations work best depending on the time of the day, weather conditions, crowds, and lighting
- secure your preferred date, starting time, and photographer by making your retainer payment
- when you work with Kiss Me in Paris, you’ll typically receive a Shoot Brief, summarizing your Paris Proposal details, including meeting point, starting time, how to signal that you’re about to propose, and more
Step 2: prepare your dream Paris proposal
Pulling off a world-class Paris proposal requires preparation and precise two-way communication between you and your photographer.
In fact, immediately after you book us, we’ll direct you to our Paris proposal tips instructional videos, and then optionally set-up a quick Skype call to get to know you and understand your unique love story.
Together, we will envision your proposal concept, and then put in place a private Pinterest inspiration-board to stay organized, manage expectations, and facilitate idea-generation.
General shoot-related considerations
There aren’t many times in life when you know in advance that you’re about to pull off something that you’ll want to remember forever.
It also means you have no excuse not to prepare thoughtfully to get things just right once you pop the question and put the ring on her finger.
- location matters: it can be the place where you first hung out together when you previously visited Paris, or simply a beautiful spot worthy of such an occasion
- when in doubt, choose a location that is private (we all love the Eiffel Tower, but you can always head there right after she says “Yes”)
- you’re proposing in Paris—so your outfits as a couple should ideally speak to the grand occasion and be seductively elegant. There are no hard rules, but for silhouettes, we prefer tightly-fitted dark attire (and her hair in a bun). Otherwise, a splash of color can truly make your photos pop
- make sure that you and your photographer know the exact moment when and where you’ll pop the question. Ideally, agree with your photographer in advance on a “READY-signal” to let her know you’re about to ask
- position yourself and your woman perfectly parallel to your photographer and the desired backdrop (e.g. the Eiffel Tower); this is important since it will allow your artist to capture your proposal and her reaction without the need to encroach or distract in any way
For serious preparation …
… please feel free to take a look at our proposal videos below, including priceless tips on location choice and how to achieve optimal results in general.
You choose between 2 distinct Paris proposal scenarios
The total Surprise Proposal
As the name suggests, your woman presumably has no clue that you’re about to pop the question as you seemingly randomly stroll through the City of Lights together.
In this scenario, your photography coverage typically starts moments before you propose (i.e. your official starting time).
You and your artist(s) need to create a foolproof Shoot Brief, including:
- specific proposal location (The Meeting Point)
- the time you intend to propose (make sure your watches are coordinated)
- how to notify the photographer in case of delay. Keep in mind that it’s not easy to communicate with your artist while your woman is by your side and needs to remain unaware
- how you and your photographer will recognize each other (Skype communication leading up to your Paris visit helps, but also send a photo of you both by email)
- an instantly recognizable and unmistakable “READY-signal
- you need to rotate your partner such that both of you are parallel to your backdrop and to your photographer
- try to get her to carry as few things as possible; you will want her hands to be free
- for extra credit, come up with an excuse for her to dress the part and ideally put her hair in a bun or pull it back (that way, we will be sure to capture her reaction … even when she bends over to take possession of the ring)
Proposal as part of a Paris photo session
This scenario is often referred to as the “Safe-play” since it differs from the total Surprise Proposal in that pretty much everything is easier to coordinate.
Like any fun Paris photo session, your photo coverage officially starts when you first meet your photographer.
Here’s the deal: your woman already knows that photos will be taken, but she typically has no idea that you’re about to propose. The advantage is that her hair and makeup will presumably look sharp, and you both will have an opportunity to coordinate attire for the shoot.
Your artist can choose the perfect angle to cover your proposal and “dial-in” her camera settings to perfection.
Don’t get us wrong, though, for any Paris proposal—regardless of scenario—still requires great preparation and coordination.
Step 3: after she says “Yes”
So she said “Yes” and her left hand now feels a touch heavier than her right hand :-). Congratulations!
Yet, stopping your photography coverage right now would be missing a precious opportunity, and here’s why: her emotions will be at a unique high and you already have a photographer whom you trust by your side.
And that’s why we recommend that you transition into an engagement session—and add at least 1-2 hours of photography coverage—it’s your opportunity to get as many fabulous photos as possible.
Now, for the total surprise proposal, couples sometimes ask us to book 1 hour for the actual surprise proposal, and then add 2 additional hours for the late evening or even for the next day.
Your partner will actually have time to prepare attire and beauty services before the second portion of your shoot.